1. You have to know who you are, and be okay with that.

The first step is to know who you are, and be okay with that.

If you’re not sure what your strengths and weaknesses are, ask three people in your life who know you well—your parents, perhaps a sibling or close friend—to describe their impressions of the kind of person they see when they look at you. It’s amazing how many people don’t do this exercise because they fear it will reveal something unflattering about themselves. But if someone doesn’t like everything about me (and there are plenty), I’m still happy to have him or her in my life!

The point here is not to flatter yourself but rather to take stock of what sort of person others think they see when they look at you and then make sure those qualities align with who YOU think YOU need to be in order for YOUR life goals and dreams to come true in the long term. If there are any discrepancies between these two versions of yourself, then now’s the time for some soul searching before proceeding further down this path toward being awesome!

2. But at the same time, you should be open to her changing you for the better.

Don’t make a list of unrealistic expectations. You may have some ideas of what you want in a girl, but don’t be afraid to change your mind if it’s for the better. If she shares her opinions about certain things with you and it makes sense, then take them into consideration. If she has some good ideas for the future, listen to those too. You can’t expect her to stay exactly like she was when you first met her—she will change as time goes on because everyone does!

Don’t let this scare you; as long as it’s healthy changes that aren’t going against who she really is then they’re all good! The important thing is not expecting things from her that are out of character or unrealistic at all costs (like how many guys think women should always cook dinner after working hard all day).

3. So go work on yourself first.

• What’s meant by “go work on yourself”?

This is the most important step, and it means that you should start by figuring out what it is that makes you who you are. If there’s something in your life that isn’t working, then change it. If there are things that bother you, then find ways to resolve them. Do the same for the good things too! Think about what makes people likeable and nice to be around and try to improve upon those qualities in yourself as much as possible. That way, when people meet you for the first time, they’ll have a positive reaction because of their previous experience with other people like yourself.

• Why should I do this before finding her?

Basically because if she doesn’t like all of these positive traits about you, then chances are she won’t want anything else from being with another person either (i.e., children). So if she doesn’t see value in herself yet–like why would anyone else?

4. And then figure out what you need in your ideal partner.

We’re going to kick this off with one of the most important questions when it comes to getting a girl: what are you looking for in a partner?

You need to start by thinking about what kind of qualities you would like your significant other to have. This can be anything from their sense of humor, their personality, their education level and background, or even whether or not they want kids. It may sound silly – but you should also think about how these qualities will help improve yourself as well. For example, maybe you want someone who is just like your best friend because they make fun of everything and everyone together (and they won’t let anyone get away with anything). Or perhaps someone who has similar religious beliefs so that they can go through life together sharing those values with each other and coming closer together spiritually speaking over time.”

5. And then, and only then, go find her and make her fall in love with you.

So, you’ve gathered all the luck charms, and now you’re ready to go find your girl.

Just remember: it’s not just about getting her. It’s about winning her over. As in, winning her over from whoever else is competing for her attention. So if there are other guys around who are trying to impress her, then this is where the real magic happens—and where luck charms come into play.

In order for you to win a girl like this over, she has to know that you’re worth winning over by giving yourself some time and effort before actually going up to her and talking with her face-to-face (or text message).

It takes a lot more than luck to get a girl (but good luck anyway).

You’re going to have to put yourself out there. You’re going to have to take risks. You’re going to have to be willing to make mistakes. You’ll need the fortitude and resolve that only comes from having failed so many times before, only then will you realize what it takes and how much luck really doesn’t matter at all.

It’s hard work, but I promise if you want it bad enough and keep trying, eventually (maybe) things will start falling into place for you.