Is Valentine’s Day for You? nstead of guessing what’s top on your wish list, we’ve done the work for you.

If your partner has never sent a single text message on his own initiative, don’t expect to find an engagement ring in a box of chocolates.

It’s important to communicate with your partner about what you want. If you don’t, they can’t possibly know and will therefore have no idea how to make you happy—or even if they’re making you unhappy.

There are many different kinds of communication habits that can be improved upon, but the most common include:

Not speaking up when things aren’t going well in a relationship—your roommate isn’t doing the dishes or taking out the trash? Speak up! Your significant other is being rude at a party? Speak up! The person who sits next to you on public transportation smells like old cheese? Speak up!
Negativity—not only do we tend not to speak up when we’re upset because we think it’ll cause problems for our relationships (and sometimes it does), but we also tend not to speak positively about our partners and relationships either. This leads to a cycle where people become more negative and less positive over time, which makes their relationships worse.* Interrupting, criticizing or blaming others without listening first

If you’re fighting about mortgage payments and child care, flowers alone aren’t going to cut it.

If you’re fighting about mortgage payments and child care, flowers alone aren’t going to cut it. If you’ve just had a fight, or if your partner isn’t feeling great—physically or emotionally—a nice dinner out won’t help. And if your relationship isn’t exactly in tip-top shape, giving each other gifts isn’t going to fix anything either.

Valentine’s Day should be about more than just a gift; it’s an expression of love and affection for your special someone. It should be a day of romance that allows for some quality time together as well as some fun activities (or at least one).

You can be together and still be lonely.

Lack of communication
Lack of intimacy
Lack of trust and respect
Shared interests.

You know this already.

You know that you need to do something to fix the relationship.
You know that you have to take action and make an effort.
You know that there are things going on in your life or your partner’s life that might be affecting the relationship, but you don’t really want to deal with it right now.
You know that it’s important for couples in relationships, especially long-term ones, to talk about how they feel and what both want from each other.

Two people can live under the same roof and never touch one another’s heart.

There’s a reason that love songs are so popular. We all want to be loved, and when we’re not sure how to ask for what we want, it’s easy to feel rejected or dismissed in our relationships—and that can make us feel lonely. Love songs can help us communicate how we really feel by putting words to emotions that might otherwise go unspoken. But the best way for two people who live under the same roof (and share many interests) not only physically but emotionally?

It’s simple: take turns giving each other gifts throughout the year—small tokens of appreciation like chocolates on Valentine’s Day, cards at Christmas and so forth—and talk about what made you choose them. It sounds simple enough, but most couples don’t do this enough during their marriage because they forget just how important these small gestures are!

No amount of presents can make up for this lack of connection.

It’s so important to be with someone who truly makes you feel loved and cared for, as opposed to with someone who gives you expensive presents all the time. It’s really not about the gifts.

This is why I think Valentine’s Day can be a good thing—it reminds us that love is more than just an exchange of material goods, it’s about connecting on an emotional level. You can have all the diamonds in the world, but if you don’t feel loved by your partner then it will never be enough!

If your relationship is flatlining, try figuring out why that is so you can both do something about it.

Ask yourself: “How can I make my relationship better?”
Evaluate your relationship: What are the good parts? The bad? How often do we have sex and how much time do we spend together? Do we fight over silly things, or does everything feel easy between us? These are all important factors for a healthy relationship.
Are there areas of improvement that could make our lives easier together? If so, what should we work on first? Some couples like to start with their finances before moving on to more personal issues (like communication). Others prefer to focus on getting along better before dealing with money matters; this approach may be more effective if there are trust issues involved in the marriage or partnership in question!

What do these changes look like at home or work? For example, some couples might want to try keeping separate bank accounts because it makes them feel safer spending money without worrying about how their spouse might react later down the line.*Why change matters: Because if one person changes but not the other person then what was once effective will no longer be so.*How can I help my partner change without becoming frustrated by his/her stubbornness or resistance? Each couple has its own unique set of obstacles when trying out new ideas for improving their lives together—and each obstacle needs its own solution! This means being flexible as possible while still sticking firmly by your own convictions about what’s best for both parties involved; this way you’ll have less stress overall when dealing with conflict between yourself/(your partner)to resolve any problems occurring within